Questions—

      So how about Gaza?

—....

Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on July 20th, 2014.  link   hide  
How do you say lebensraum in Hebrew? umm, yea.

I think that people need to recognize that the actions of Hamas come from the systematic denial of basic human rights and trade etc to those in the Gaza strip for decades. So, Israel has a few rockets coming over (because they send in tanks and fortified bulldozers to clear land for more settlements) and so they just beat the shit out of the Palestinians, military or not. The US supports them in many ways, tangible or not, and supporting Islamic radicals (no matter that they become radical because of the actions of Israel) is certainly not pc in this day and age.

Basically fuck the Israelis for thinking they are morally superior or whatever. Like religious biases or not, can we just not bomb the shit out of civilians please?

Israel has the majority of influence (between the two) on world info and media, and so they can pretty much portray a much more favorable conflict, claiming humanitarian motivations and blacklisting/ignoring stories of their atrocities. But, when one rocket comes back and is deflected by the Iron Dome, you know it's all Hamas' fault.

Just a few initial thoughts. Trying to think for myself on this one, jewish people/supporters prove me wrong?
—STOP KILLING EACH OTHER PLS
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on July 20th, 2014.  link  
To put things in perspective, casualties, from Wikipedia:

Israel: 18 soldiers, 2 civilians dead.
Gaza: 476 killed, 76% of which are civilians, and 3008 wounded.

as of 7/20/2014 at 10:45PM

source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Protective_Edge
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on July 20th, 2014.  link  
You won't get any counter-arguments here. If you got all the right guns and friends and cash, and you're enemy's stuck behind a giant wall and slowly starving, you don't really need to reason with anyone. You just keep shooting the fish in the barrel. It's evidently really profitable.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past ten in the evening on July 20th, 2014.  link  
Next at the UN-

Country A: "So, umm, guys, umm this is really awkward, but does anybody know how we can charge Israel with war crimes? Ideas for punitive sanctions?"

US: "NO Israel is protecting their land! We will veto everything."

Country A, B, C, and so on and so forth "Ok"

Dirt poor Muslims get killed and nothing is done about it. All is right in the world from the Western perspective of the early 21st Century.
—at least bin laden deserved it, the rest ???
Posted at a quarter to eleven in the evening on July 20th, 2014.  link  
The death toll is so one sided because Hamas uses civilians to hide and protect missiles. They put them in mosques, schoos, and homes. Israel bends ok over backwards to war mm people to get out t before they start to attack a missile site but Hamas tells people to stay put for the very purpose of making Israel look back bad. And it's not one little missile, there have been hundreds of rockets targeting Israeli homes coming over. Thank God hey do have that iron dome or else that death toll would be higher. Just because their military isn't a bunch of backward idiots throwing firecrackers doesn't make Israel the bad guy.
Do you really expect them to do nothing as they incessantly bombarded?
—Anonymous
Posted at half past six in the morning on July 21st, 2014.  link  
Keep in mind prior to Israel actually engaging Gaza, Hamas was not firing those missiles. In fact, he was actively trying to prevent people from firing missiles at Israel. Israel knew this fully well when they started their counter-attack. After Israel started to engage, Hamas started to back the people firing missiles as a response to Israel using the whole thing as propaganda/reason to the western world to invade Gaza. Israel was not "incessantly bombarded" by Hamas. They were attacked by rebels, and chose to retaliate against Hamas, who was actually attempting to stop the rebels.
—Anonymous
Posted at five o'clock in the evening on July 21st, 2014.  link  
To: The Zionist two up
"their military isn't a bunch of backward idiots throwing firecrackers" wow they sound really dangerous.

Almost like it makes more sense to try a diplomatic solution than a ground invasion. Or maybe like agree to let them have a few more calories each in Gaza? I know that a full meal makes me feel less inclined to shoot off missiles at Israel why don't they try air dropping in food packets instead of weapons banned by international law?
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to nine in the evening on July 21st, 2014.  link  
^ or at least let Gazans accept the foreign aid that Israel has completely embargoed for years. Let them have a shot at survival.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past eleven in the evening on July 21st, 2014.  link  
Even if they're ineffective it's still intolerable.
And really? Zionist?
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to seven in the morning on July 22nd, 2014.  link  
Ineffective bombing = intolerable
Israel killing hundreds, wounding thousands and bombing hospitals = defending themselves?
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past seven in the morning on July 22nd, 2014.  link  
yes
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to eight in the morning on July 22nd, 2014.  link  

question—

      good philosophy classes?

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter past one in the afternoon on July 19th, 2014.  link   hide  
Umm, all of them?
—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on July 21st, 2014.  link  
Don't take Prof. Hanrahan.
—regret
Posted at eleven o'clock in the evening on July 21st, 2014.  link  
I'm guessing you regret that because you got a bad grade
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past seven in the morning on July 22nd, 2014.  link  

Opinion time—

      I think that the crusade to improve everyone's body image is perhaps taken too far, to the point that it sweeps the legitimate issues with obesity under the rug. No one should feel ashamed of how they look, but it's counter productive to discourage people from making healthier lifestyle choices just to protect their egos.

Not everyone who is obese is so because of lifestyle choices. I get that. Endocrine disorders can make slimming down damn near impossible; that doesn't change the fact that an over abundance of adipose tissue generally correlates to lots of health problems that are an expensive national burden.

to discourage obese individuals from pursuing healthier lifestyle choices on the basis of improving their self image is tantamount to encouraging their medical decline.

Finally, before anyone shouts privilege, it's possible to live a healthy lifestyle on a tight budget. Exercise is free if you have legs to run with and an upper body to do push-ups with. I've been able to eat fresh, whole foods for less than $7 a day without growing any of my own. Instead of making excuses that legitimize unhealthy lifestyles, we should be focusing our efforts on saving lives.

—*dawns body armor in anticipation of knee jerk reactions*

Posted at four o'clock in the morning on July 20th, 2014.  link   hide  
You're not alone! Don't worry. "Fat acceptance," while great in theory, gets pretty whack pretty fast.
—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on July 20th, 2014.  link  
I was just thinking about this today! I completely agree. I think that the standards of beauty that are forced on girls and women by pencil thin supermodels and photoshop artists is a problem, but I also think that "fat acceptance" as the commenter above calls it is problematic because it ignores the growing obesity epidemic in this country (no pun intended). I think there is a happy medium where the emphasis should be placed on making healthy lifestyle choices rather than fat-shaming or fat-praising.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past nine in the evening on July 20th, 2014.  link  
Fat shaming so to speak also has a lot to do with poverty. There's a great documentary on this called "A Place at the Table"
—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on July 21st, 2014.  link  

yo—

      who is the best counselor at Whitman? I'm looking for someone to see on the reg

—considering doing that next year

Posted at half past three in the morning on July 1st, 2014.  link   hide  
I see Thacher every week but I think the counselors often specialize in certain areas so it might be best to talk to them. I think counseling is amazing resource at Whitman you should def take advantage of. Here if you need someone to walk you over.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past eight in the evening on July 4th, 2014.  link  
I've heard SKO is amazing, but apparently it's really hard to get in to see her. Try calling as soon as the school year starts, if not before.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past seven in the morning on July 6th, 2014.  link  
DON'T. They are all judgemental superficial beings. Stay away and be careful.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past ten in the evening on July 19th, 2014.  link  

Eyyyy—

      John McCain reminds me of Peter Pettigrew

—can't help letting this outta my bosom

Posted at a quarter past twelve in the evening on July 18th, 2014.  link   hide  

Ugh.—

      Every time I think about you, my heart actually starts to hurt. I've never really stopped caring about you. I say I'm your friend, I've foolishly fooled around with you, and I'd convinced myself that I needed to pull away from you, but that only hurt even more. What I feel is an addiction. It's not healthy, but I keep going back to you and pretending I'm just there to be your friend. I'm afraid that on some level, you know exactly what's going on, and you're just using me. That'd be even worse than you having no idea. I can't wait until our eventual graduation. At least that will force this hideous cycle to stop.

—Anonymous

Posted at half past one in the morning on July 14th, 2014.  link   hide  
Details?
—Anonymous
Posted at three o'clock in the morning on July 14th, 2014.  link  
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XdM2pD-oGZk
—Why does nothing ever turn out like it should?
Posted at a quarter past five in the morning on July 14th, 2014.  link  
Girl to guy?
—Anonymous
Posted at ten o'clock in the morning on July 15th, 2014.  link  
Or guy to girl?
—Anonymous
Posted at ten o'clock in the morning on July 15th, 2014.  link  
Girl to Society
—.
Posted at a quarter past two in the afternoon on July 15th, 2014.  link  
Hey Girl to Society, guys are usually not good at hiding their deepest intentions. Those things will seep out eventually, no matter how hard they try to cover it up. So if you feel like you're used, chances that you are.

You always have other choices. Distancing from that person, even temporarily, is one of those options. Just sayin'

Yeah, I recognize that nice, honest guys exist. But douchebags are everywhere, and even some nice guys could be very douchey to peeps they don't care about. *sigh*

Emotional efficiency complex, I guess.
—Another gal who had been there s, left, and felt so much happier overtime.
Posted at seven o'clock in the evening on July 17th, 2014.  link  
*several times
—Above poster
Posted at seven o'clock in the evening on July 17th, 2014.  link  

those with underpants—

      Thoughts on this upcoming "underwear party?"

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter to five in the evening on July 15th, 2014.  link   hide  
What were you eating under there?
—under where?
Posted at a quarter to five in the evening on July 15th, 2014.  link  

Hey peeps—

      I am literally talking to you right now

—YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW ME THIS IS SO TRIPPY

Posted at a quarter past two in the afternoon on July 15th, 2014.  link   hide  

Hey you—

      Tell me a secret?

—I'm bored and I won't judge

Posted at four o'clock in the afternoon on June 10th, 2014.  link   hide  
I love you baby, and if it's quite alright—
—I need you baby...
Posted at five o'clock in the evening on June 10th, 2014.  link  
I have lots of them, and I think I know who you are.
—running in circles, coming up tails
Posted at a quarter to seven in the evening on June 10th, 2014.  link  
Even though I act like I don't know you, but gosh, I miss you so much right now.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to five in the morning on June 11th, 2014.  link  
...to warm the lonely nights—
—I love you baby...
Posted at a quarter past five in the morning on June 11th, 2014.  link  
I love you too, babe
—if only I could say those words that easily
Posted at a quarter to five in the evening on June 11th, 2014.  link  
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sqgW-2orQQg
—:-O
Posted at a quarter past five in the evening on June 11th, 2014.  link  
I really really like you...but I'm too worried to do anything about it. Worried about messing up our friendship, worried that I already screwed it up by pretending that I don't like you like that, and now I sound like an idiot.
—Wish I could just tell you.
Posted at half past eleven in the evening on June 11th, 2014.  link  
I have trust issues because my dad was an abusive jerk growing up and I'm incredibly conflicted about my love for him as my father and his actions when he got mad. I can't reconcile the different halves and I'm beginning to wonder if it's because I recognize myself in him sometimes. Am I doomed to repeat his mistakes? What if I really am just my father's daughter and nothing more?
I didn't realize till today (when I was reflecting on my childhood in passing) that worrying that someone will start swearing and punching things if I don't do isn't normal.
Ga. Not a happy secret, sorry.
—Conflicted
Posted at ten o'clock in the evening on June 13th, 2014.  link  
*if I don't do what they want

Also I hate Father's Day (happy Sunday everyone...)
—Above poster
Posted at ten o'clock in the evening on June 13th, 2014.  link  
"Am I doomed to repeat his mistakes?" -- If you're already asking yourself this question, it's very likely that you are NOT. From what you posted, I might be coming from a similar background.

My dad was my best friend and ally, but he would hit and slapped me, and knocked down/disassembled the door of my room when I didn’t listen and do exactly what he said. When angered, he was scary.

Yes, I was rebellious as a teenager (surprise surprise) and said unwise things, but the situation got worse when my dad lost his temper. It was terrifying, and several times I thought he would kill me.

Things have gotten so much better since I left home to study several years ago. That was before college. A lot of things happened when I was away. Whenever I came back home (once or twice a year), I would have conversations with my dad for hours, picking up where we left off in our phone call each month. He stopped smoking in front of me, which was sooo nice. Because if he did, either he or I would put a fan in between, so that the smoke from his cigarette would go back to his side or the sideline. I noticed most of my sense of humor came from him, and once in a while I used it against him. In a good way.

After the first three years, I didn’t die in many ways (haha), and I slowly won his trust over the years. I’m fully in charge of everything I do now. I no longer need his connections. He no longer has to ask his friends to help me or give me any social/career cushioning. It was exhilarating to finally escape my dad’s shadow. Sometimes he would give me advice, but he would mention that whatever I do is up to me. I almost cried when he called and said, “I’ve been thinking about this over and over again. Your mom and I have worked to the best of our ability to bring you up and pay tuition fees. As you know, we're not wealthy. This is it. This is our limit. Whatever you do, whichever career you choose that makes you happy will make me happy.” That was my fifth year away from home.

On another note, I started writing letters/cards to my dad since 2012. My dad still has no idea Father’s Day is in June, or he's darn good at pretending to be surprised or deadly neutral when he saw the card's title.
—oh, feel free to shoot me an email. I'd love to talk to you. It's rare to have this kind of conversation from WE.
Posted at half past nine in the morning on June 14th, 2014.  link  
One of my ex's balls were so saggy they were longer than his dick. And he had a really big dick, 7-8 inches. It creeped me out and I was always scared they were gonna rip off if we had sex too vigorously. He also had quite a bit of gray in his pubes...and no he wasn't old, he was 20. Overall pretty darn creepy effect because looking at him from the waist down made me feel like I was with a grandpa. Shudder.
—Anonymous
Posted at five o'clock in the evening on June 14th, 2014.  link  
I've never been in love and I'm terrified that I never will be.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past twelve in the morning on June 15th, 2014.  link  
I break hearts. Not on purpose, I just have a tendency to get into situations where someone falls really hard for me and I have more casual feelings towards them. When I inevitably move on, they're crushed. I don't know how to break this cycle.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to eleven in the evening on June 15th, 2014.  link  
I haven't been in a relationship in two years. Since then, I've missed having a mutual connection with someone. The sexual frustration has been overwhelming. I ended up losing my virginity with someone I didn't care about at all as a result of that. I feel bad knowing that they were using me for that reason, and worse that I was using them for that and for what they could do for me socially rather than any good feelings I had toward them as a person. I know that we all use each other to an extent, but after looking back on it, this just felt wrong, and I never thought I would turn into a user. I'm not ashamed for being a sexual being, but I am ashamed of using him, and I hope I never stoop that low again. I've learned the extent that I will go to feel as though I belong, and I've learned that it's better to have very few or even no friends than fake friends that you are using, or that are using you.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past one in the morning on June 16th, 2014.  link  
^2up - as someone who was recently on the other side of that equation, it fucking sucks. Please just be honest with them about the casualness of your feeling - or, at the very least, don't constantly communicate to them that you feel just as strongly
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to one in the afternoon on June 16th, 2014.  link  
*communicate either explicitly or indirectly/via implication and general "vibe" (or both)
—Anonymous
Posted at one o'clock in the afternoon on June 16th, 2014.  link  
I absolutely hate how I look and think about it at least 25 times a day.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past six in the evening on June 16th, 2014.  link  
Once, long ago, I united the liberal arts students of the world.
—Anonymous
Posted at seven o'clock in the evening on June 16th, 2014.  link  
After texting the guy I liked in high school for a while about what college/post high school life has been like for us, I had a dream that we were dating, and then it turned into a (very good) sexual dream. I had been telling myself not to expect anything if we hang out, but I guess my subconscious didn't get that memo.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past ten in the evening on June 16th, 2014.  link  
I'm sick of being afraid you're going to show up everywhere. You're the one who should be ashamed whenever you see me. Next time, I'm not moving, and if things get awkward for you, so fucking be it. It's ridiculous that I'm still expending energy on you.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to four in the afternoon on June 17th, 2014.  link  
To "Wish I could just tell you" -

I read your post about five times, wishing it was about me, because I feel the same way about a friend of mine.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past five in the evening on June 17th, 2014.  link  
miss you.
—come back.
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on June 17th, 2014.  link  
I planted a san Marzano next to the blueberries in the edible garden by the amphitheater.
—tomatoes for ALL!!!
Posted at a quarter past one in the afternoon on June 20th, 2014.  link  
^...
—...
Posted at a quarter past five in the evening on June 20th, 2014.  link  
I've realized that I start or bother to continue fights with people only if I really care for them or if I hate them so much that I want them out of my life. Sometimes it's not always clear to me whether I love or hate that person that I'm fighting with, but either way, the fights usually don't end well, and I'm realizing that I might be a pretty sucky person, at least in that regard.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past twelve in the morning on June 26th, 2014.  link  
I used to be in love with Whitman and now I'm considering transferring.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past eight in the evening on July 4th, 2014.  link  
Go for—
—ah.
Posted at three o'clock in the morning on July 6th, 2014.  link  
Everyone I've come out to is okay with the fact that I'm bisexual (ish. Like not fully lesbian, but not really half and half), but I'm still terrified of being gay. I know there's nothing wrong with it and I can't change it, but not a day goes by when I wish I were straight. I'm happy with the constant hookup I have with a (male) friend of mine, but I really wish I could date/hookup with a female partner instead.
But Whitman isn't really the place for being gay (not that people aren't accepting, but numbers-wise)
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on July 6th, 2014.  link  
*When I don't wish I were straight
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on July 6th, 2014.  link  
I know I could have loved you, but you wouldn't let me
—I followed you down
Posted at half past eleven in the morning on July 15th, 2014.  link  

Summer Whities—

      Is the Health Center open?

—Anonymous

Posted at three o'clock in the morning on July 14th, 2014.  link   hide  
No, unfortunately. :(
—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the morning on July 14th, 2014.  link  

Anyone who pretends to care.—

      I'm thinking of transferring. Whitman is too expensive, it puts too much of a strain on my family financially, my financial aid was almost laughable, I had a shit-show of a sophomore year, all of my friends are too busy being RAs to care about anything else, and the only thing I want to go back for is class. And I'm not sure that 50000+ a year is worth a lot more depression and lonely nights in the library.

—The person who used to be in love with this school.

Posted at half past eight in the evening on July 4th, 2014.  link   hide  
Go for it!
—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on July 4th, 2014.  link  
I've dealt with a lot of depression and loneliness at this school as well. It's gotten a lot better for me- I've found that a change in living situation and new classes helped a lot. I definitely wish it was more socially acceptable to try to reach out to new people and make more friends when you're no longer a freshman, but I've been trying to do that regardless. If you're really really unhappy with the situation and it's been a big financial strain, then you should definitely look into other options, but I'd recommend giving Whitman another chance.
—Someone who has been extremely miserable and extremely happy at this school
Posted at a quarter to eleven in the morning on July 5th, 2014.  link  
It makes me simultaneously sad and happy to hear that I'm not alone in the loneliness I've experienced at Whitman. I, too, have loved the classes that I've taken within my major (and hated the others I had to take for distribution, but that's another story) and I am grateful for the education I'm receiving. I have found a few very good friends there, but there are a lot of other people with lofty political agendas that don't exactly seem friendly and approachable to me, and I've had more falling-outs with former close friends at Whitman than I ever have in high school, or even in middle school, which was even more of a social hellhole. I have the same political beliefs, but sometimes I just want to talk and laugh about other things, but with them, it seems to be all political all the time. There are a lot of intelligent people here, which is great, but many of them come off as too intense for me. Maybe I'm too soft or down-to-earth, but sometimes I feel like the school in general is just way too uptight. For example, even if I'm having a shitty day, I try to laugh at funny comments made in class, and I'm the only one that does, little things like that that add up. I already struggle with depression and anxiety, and that prevalent uppity atmosphere hasn't made it any easier for me. The financial strain has also been rough, but Whitman actually gave me the best deal out of all of the schools I applied to, so I would have been screwed financially anywhere I chose to go. And concerning my general lack of a social life there (there are exceptions to that), I know that it won't last forever and the Whitman degree will do a lot for me. Because of what the degree could do for you, and because of the reality that college in general is insanely expensive, it might be good to keep the good things in mind and endure the bad and put it in perspective for the sake of getting a good college degree. It could be in your best interest to look at other schools. They might give you a better financial aid package, and there might be a group of people at your potential new school that you'd fit in with better, but there's also the possibility that it'd be even worse somewhere else. If it's mainly about the finances, maybe you should see if there's a better deal out there, but if it's mainly about the social life, there is no guarantee that it'd be better anywhere else. Best of luck to you!
—Someone who might understand
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on July 8th, 2014.  link  
Dude, just do it. You'll be glad you did.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to eleven in the evening on July 10th, 2014.  link  
^Did you do it?
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past eleven in the evening on July 10th, 2014.  link  
Nope, and I regret it every single day.
—A rising senior
Posted at half past one in the afternoon on July 11th, 2014.  link  
Aw. I'm a rising senior that got close to transferring this past year as well. Only one year left! I hope you can make the most out of it. I will, but it won't be easy.
—Anonymous
Posted at twelve o'clock in the morning on July 14th, 2014.  link  

Look at me! I have an unpopular opinion!—

      I 1000% agree with this article.

http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2013/10/sexual_assault_and_drinking_teach_women_the_connection.html

—female

Posted at half past seven in the evening on July 8th, 2014.  link   hide  
Or, you know, adequately punish men who rape.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to eight in the evening on July 8th, 2014.  link  
Or help rehabilitate them.

But wait, you're too stupid to know how to do that because you need to be rehabilitated too.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on July 8th, 2014.  link  
Of course! As the article makes a point of stating (though I think she should've emphasized this a LOT more), a woman's getting super drunk does NOT make it okay to rape her. Of course it's way more important to teach young men not to view women as objects to be taken advantage of. It's also way more important to punish the assailant and take sexual assault crimes more seriously.
BUT- you can advise young women to be careful and look out for themselves without the implication that a survivor who was intoxicated did something wrong. If you read the article all the way through, you'll see that she doesn't blame the victims! She advises women to stay on top of their game and not put themselves in harms way. Should anyone "have to" be vigilant about protecting themselves? No, of course not. Unfortunately, the reality of the situation is that really disgusting assaults do take place way too frequently on college campuses, and there's often alcohol involved, so I don't see why urging caution and common sense is considered "victim-blaming." If you ask me, the point Yoffe is making is very similar to the point the female comedian in the popular John Stewart sketch makes. Sure, Yoffe comes off as more condescending and scolding, but ultimately I see nothing problematic about her argument.
—OP
Posted at half past nine in the evening on July 8th, 2014.  link  
Also, apologies for the heavily gendered language. I'm well aware that not all assailants are men and not all victims are women.
—OP
Posted at half past nine in the evening on July 8th, 2014.  link  
Please read the article before judging its contents. It's not the victim-blaming drivel it sounds like it is.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on July 8th, 2014.  link  
How dare you have an opposing opinion. I'll bet you're a closet Republican, too.
—Shocked and outraged
Posted at half past eleven in the evening on July 8th, 2014.  link  
(LIBERAL) LIBERAL ARTS STUDENTS OF THE WORLD UNITE!
—Reinvigorated! :-D
Posted at a quarter to twelve in the morning on July 9th, 2014.  link  
I think urging common sense is extremely important, and while I think it's wrong to judge people for their clothing or their level of intoxication, if I have children, male or female, doesn't matter, I will encourage them to dress modestly and to be as careful as possible about ending up in a situation where they could be taken advantage of. As an atheist, I don't believe in traditional gender role crap or religious repression, and that wouldn't be the reason for encouraging modesty, but I would be encouraging modesty so that they would be less likely to be judged unfairly by the rest of the world for something as stupid as clothing choice. I would tell them that it isn't fair, and it shouldn't have to be this way, but that it's not safe to go places alone, especially at night, especially if you're a woman, and it's not a good idea to wear clothes that would lead to negative judgment, not because I myself believe that they're wrong, but because I know what others will perceive. They're just clothes. But other people won't see it that way, and it would be my job to help my kids understand all sides of the issue.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to three in the afternoon on July 9th, 2014.  link  
Double-edged blade, tho. Telling people to guard against something implicitly conditions people in a non-ideal way. Less drastic example: You leave shit on your front porch, gets stolen, peeps will be all like "well yeah jerk move on the part of the thief but seriously u shoulda known better", victim blaming. And while yea, not leaving shit on your porch would probably be safer, it's also allowing yourself to be bullied by the mere potential of theft, which is shitty.

So what I'm saying is, yea, peeps shouldn't put themselves in dangerous situations if they can't take the consequences. But we also gotta be careful not to take crime for granted and to be properly outraged by unacceptable behaviour. Y'know, the thief probs thought the shit was his for the taking, "what sorta idiot leaves shit they want out on their porch?", and we need ta change the culture around that too.

(To tie this back in to the discussion of rape and assault, this is the whole "she dressed like a slut so she was asking for it" attitude; saying that hey maybe you shouldn't dress like a slut sorta implicitly blames those who do. Likewise with drinking.)
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past four in the afternoon on July 10th, 2014.  link  
Fair point.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past five in the evening on July 10th, 2014.  link  
I don't agree with equating rape victim's clothing choice or drinking amount with leaving, say, a 40-inch big screen tv on your front porch all day. Most people who get raped or assaulted are raped/assaulted by someone they know and often someone they trust, so that can be more difficult to guard against than leaving possessions out in the open. Even if someone isn't using common sense and they get raped, it's still not right to victim-blame them, because no one is asking for it. No one is asking for their tv to be stolen, either, and it's not good to point fingers at someone when something like that happens, but if I found out that they left it on the porch, I would be inclined to think "Why did they leave it out like that?" when I wouldn't do so for rape/assault. Maybe I'm biased because I've always been taught to be careful with my belongings, and I was also assaulted by my friend's older brother who I thought was a nice guy when I was a kid.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to eleven in the evening on July 10th, 2014.  link  
In response to the first commenter, I don't think the article is justifying inadequate punishment of rapists, it's just stating the shitty reality that colleges are terrible at it. I agree with this article, which also, albeit briefly, mentions teaching young boys not to rape and how not to be macho, sexist jerks as well as teaching girls not to be okay with that kind of behavior from men, and how to be aware of their surroundings and keep the likelihood of assault down. I will emphasize that it's not fair that she needs to do that, and it's not fair that it's safer (though still not entirely) safe for a boy to walk alone at night simply because he's a boy, but it's just the unfortunate reality of the world.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past eleven in the evening on July 10th, 2014.  link  
something to chew on: http://nyti.ms/1niT4pr
— "Reporting Rape, and Wishing She Hadn’t"
Posted at eight o'clock in the morning on July 13th, 2014.  link  

buffs—

      How does 1 ecology?

(talking the Science, not the Movement)

—need 2 kno

Posted at half past five in the evening on July 10th, 2014.  link   hide  

I think—

      I've become more in love with the idea of love than any particular person for the last year or two. I'm not sure if I've become too selfish, or if it's just that no one suitable for me happens to be in my current surroundings. At this time of night, I sometimes start having forever alone thoughts. I hope I can think back upon writing this post in the future and laugh about how silly I was to have written this.

—Midnight rant

Posted at half past twelve in the morning on June 26th, 2014.  link   hide  
Stop romanticizing love and start enjoying it
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on June 28th, 2014.  link  
I have the exact same thoughts.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to six in the morning on June 30th, 2014.  link  
I certainly don't expect sunshine and rainbows all the time for any kind of relationship. I've been physically attracted to a lot of people, as anyone who isn't asexual would be, but it's been two years since I've met or spent time with someone, found myself thinking about them and smiling, and feeling inexplicably drawn to them, or I hear something they say and think it's smart or funny and then suddenly start thinking they're adorable, and it goes from there. Those things haven't happened in that long. I never planned or calculated those things, so I figured that something else like it would pop up at some point after my last relationship ended, but it hasn't. No one I've met since 2011 has 'done anything' for me, and I'm definitely not asexual, so I'm wondering if it's me, or a shallow dating pool.
—OP
Posted at three o'clock in the afternoon on July 9th, 2014.  link  
Oops, three years, not two :/
—OP
Posted at three o'clock in the afternoon on July 9th, 2014.  link  
:/ OP is :/.
—:/...
Posted at half past nine in the evening on July 9th, 2014.  link  

Gentlemen in Walla Walla (Summer)—

      I've dabbled in the ink well, but never had the quill.

Looking to makeout, give/take head, but wouldn't mind flirting first. Or roleplaying? I think that would be hot.

Send me some face shots. No response if otherwise. Dick-pics aren't amusing. Let's talk. I'm romantic. I'll make you omelettes.



—XOXO

Posted at half past eleven in the evening on July 8th, 2014.  link   hide  

All the people I have contacted this summer...—

      You suck. I don't know why I still try to stay in contact and have a one-way relationship. And I'm not saying that you need to write me a long letter or anything but text back would be nice. Or if I text you in the first place a response would be the least you could do. And don't just fucking apologize that you've "fallen out of the loop" and then continue not responding. If you don't want to be friends anymore have the fucking guts to tell me.

—All my friends who give a fuck are gone next semester.

Posted at half past eight in the evening on July 4th, 2014.  link   hide  
Don't bitch on an anonymous board about it, get up in their goddamn faces about it. The least they owe you is an answer.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past eleven in the evening on July 6th, 2014.  link  

Seeking some opinions—

      I was recently informed that in a heterosexual relationship it is considered the girl's job to say "I love you" first. Now, popular opinion may be a bunch of baloney, but...I'm thinking I might be in love with my significant other. But I'd like to hear those words said to me first. Is there any chance of that happening or will this supposed social norm hold him back until I say it? Is this an actual social norm??

—Smitten

Posted at half past ten in the morning on July 6th, 2014.  link   hide  
... I've never even heard of that being a social norm.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to eleven in the morning on July 6th, 2014.  link  
Totally not a social norm (although it might be some myth I am not familiar with... perhaps based on the stereotype that women become more easily attached than men - bullshit). If you feel it, say it. Don't wait around for your feelings to be confirmed so you don't have to take any risks in your relationship. It's a RUSH! In a good way. You can't always be as comfortable as you want in a relationship - that's not what they are about. At times you have to take a step forward not having any idea if you will land on solid ground.

But all that being said, don't worry too much, I'm sure it will go great! Good luck.
—Anonymous
Posted at six o'clock in the evening on July 6th, 2014.  link  

everyone—

      Great article, I highly recommend giving it a read.

http://www.npr.org/blogs/codeswitch/2014/07/06/328466757/columbusing-the-art-of-discovering-something-that-is-not-new?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=npr&utm_term=nprnews&utm_content=20140706

—NPR rocks

Posted at ten o'clock in the morning on July 6th, 2014.  link   hide  
I read this article and highly recommend everyone to do so. The article is brief, simple, and makes some good points.
—OP, thanks for sharing
Posted at two o'clock in the afternoon on July 6th, 2014.  link  

people with experience with antidepressants—

      I quit my antidepressants last week. I have been very very irritated about most things in the past week. It has been really hard for me to be nice to anyone... I have been crying every day for at least 15min per day -- crying for no reason. I keep saying to myself it will get worse before it gets better. How long does it take to get over the side effects of quitting antidepressants?

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter to seven in the evening on July 1st, 2014.  link   hide  
I was there last week, without antidepressants and all that. Can I give you a virtual hug?
—It will get better
Posted at a quarter to one in the afternoon on July 2nd, 2014.  link  
DON'T quit your antidepressants! Especially not cold turkey or without psychiatric advice.
—Anonymous
Posted at four o'clock in the afternoon on July 3rd, 2014.  link  
^ This is the right urgent advice. OP, have you try combining taking antidepressants and therapy/meditation? And ask your medical provider about reducing the dose over the long run, and eventually get out of the prescription.

Be patient. It takes time. Also, focus on dealing with the root cause of your depression. Take good care of yourself! Feel better soon!
—http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201110/the-blues-is-depression-should-you-treat-it-pills
Posted at a quarter past five in the morning on July 4th, 2014.  link  
I had to quit last summer and it took a week to get things back to normal. I felt really sick like I had the flu and was dizzy, not hungry, feverish...

Unfortunately I'm back on them now. Here is you need to talk.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past eight in the evening on July 4th, 2014.  link  

Liberal...—

      ...arts... students... of... the world... uni...

—...I... can't...

Posted at half past eight in the evening on June 30th, 2014.  link   hide  
haha
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past seven in the morning on July 1st, 2014.  link  
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