Whitman kinksters and sex fiends—

      So the last thread for a threesome/orgy never actualized, so I'm taking up the responsibility to start one and make it happen. All genders, sexes, and sexualities welcome. Consent and safety are required. Email me if you're interested, and maybe your gender and preferences so I can figure out what the ratios will be like. This will probably have to happen next semester, but we can start talking now.

—anon

Posted at half past nine in the evening on December 18th, 2014.  link   hide  

poop—

      lol

—dicks

Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on December 18th, 2014.  link   hide  

Another privilege discussion, because everyone is going to read it —

      I'm not going to post something like this on facebook because it's too personal, but if any friends know that it's me and want to talk about it with me one on one, they can.

I'm not anywhere near wealthy, but I'm nowhere near poverty, either.

I just want to hopefully get more people thinking about some of the economic inequality stuff going on, and share my perspective. My identity isn't important; it's the general issue that I'm getting at.

I've lived a pretty comfortable life. One of my parents was very poor, and was also the first in their family to get a Bachelor’s degree, and I was always told how much I had and should be grateful for. I did get into a school like Whitman, and for that, I am most definitely grateful. But it is always frustrating when I tell people about the retail job that I work at over break, and they look at me with sympathy or confusion. It’s not fun, it’s work, but I don't mind working at that kind of job, because I know it's not forever. Many of my much less privileged co-workers ARE going to be in jobs like that forever, and that is humbling and important for me to understand. It's also taught me a lot about getting along with people and learning to be efficient and friendly in a work setting.

But I always feel like my life doesn't measure up to my peers at Whitman, because I have to make enough money over break, and that doesn't allow me to take a really cool internship (those don't tend to pay very well), or travel, or do anything amazing or extremely fun. Making a resume in college made me feel awful because I feel like I don't have anything good to offer on paper compared to most of the students here. I have volunteering things, but those took place during school and on my days off when I wasn't working. My volunteer hours aren't anywhere near the number of hours I've worked. I'm still pretty privileged compared to most Americans, but I never had enough privilege to not have to work when I'm not in school. I believe that both work and internships should be valued, given that not everyone comes from a rich background. Resume-stuffing, or whatever the term is for just cramming in a bunch of internships, etc. can be a great thing, but it’s not great for everyone, not if you just can’t afford to take on one of those things. The emphasis on resume-stuffing is understandable at a school full of very academically-oriented people, but some students, who aren’t rich and didn’t get a ton of aid, just have to work.

I feel that many, though not all, people here don’t understand that my reality is the common reality for most American college students. Some students and even some professors kind of flinch or look down and just nod when they ask what I'm doing over break and I tell them. My (comparably) humble life is something I try to avoid talking about with most people here, because I don’t get to go to Chile to study environmental issues. I have to go to work. I’m not ashamed of that, but most people here, at least most that I’ve talked to, just can’t relate to it. I’m also going to graduate with tens of thousands of dollars in student debt, which is also very typical of most American college students, so I have to work. I tell myself this, because I know it's true: They don't understand, and they’re not intentionally making you feel bad, and they'd feel bad if they realized they were. They're just reacting in the only way they know how, they just have a different life, and I'm doing what I need to do until I get my degree.

But it's still hard to not compare yourself in that setting when everyone stresses resumes, when everyone has something cool to share about their breaks and the coolest thing I did was hang out with my family on my days off (which certainly is fun, but people ask how far you traveled, and you're like, uh, the five minute drive to my job?), and the best thing I can say is, “Oh, I just stayed home, it was relaxing,” and quickly change the subject so as not to get that pitied look again (even though I feel I have nothing to be pitied), and when your professors and peers seem to either pity you or judge you for it, especially when everyone here says that they're open-minded about privilege. I'm not even anywhere near poverty. But I can still see that many people's actions don't match what they profess to believe when they get a funny look on their face when I talk about working in retail. I hope this rant made sense. And I hope it will further the discussion about privilege.

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter past twelve in the morning on December 18th, 2014.  link   hide  
Wow, I am glad to know there is someone else who feels this way. Whitman is a remarkable place -- the only place where I actually feel poor. Raised by a single mom, no one in my family went to college, blah blah blah, but I never FELT poor until coming here. I always have had food to eat, a place to stay. No, I didn't always get what what I wanted growing up, but I always knew I was fortunate to have what I did have. Now I am so fortunate to be attending Whitman, yet despite the scholarships I am receiving for bringing socioeconomic diversity to this college (which seems silly to me...considering that I previously viewed myself as very average, not socioeconomically different), the constant work I do during school and breaks, and the loans I have taken out, I don't even know if I can afford to come back next semester. Meanwhile, people wonder why I'm so busy and stressed. Well, trying to be the perfect Whitman student is hard enough, but when you are balancing the expected Whitman workload of difficult classes, extra-curriculars, and volunteer work with the added bonus of multiple jobs, the pressure to feel "worthy" of the scholarships and grants that are very clearly explained as being funded partly by wealthier students' tuition, the stress that money is always an issue at school and at home, and the strange realization that VERY few people at Whitman feel this way, and that you are now the "poor" kid -- well, it is A LOT to handle.

It is just a strange dynamic at Whitman. Though a small percentage of people are very wealthy, at Whitman, it is the norm. So people who live "average" lives (I'm using this loosely to mean anyone who isn't in poverty, but isn't wealthy) become the poor minority. And it really does make a difference at Whitman. I don't really know if there is anything anyone can do about it...no one is intentionally doing anything to make me feel less than, but for some reason I feel it when I'm here. It is just very strange.

OP -- f you ever want someone to chat with about this, let me know. I think the best option is to have people to talk to who are going through the same difficulties. Even though the whole big thing about socioeconomic diversity that came up this year started good conversations, it seems to be a passing fad -- and though I am hopeful that changes will be made, a support system and continued awareness are a great start in the short term.
—In the same boat
Posted at a quarter past nine in the morning on December 18th, 2014.  link  
I'm really glad that someone can relate. And I hope that those who can't still read my post and understand that there's nothing weird about working 30-40 hours a week on your breaks so you can pay for your books. Most people do that. The mindset that it is weird or something to be pitied actually made me really depressed for a while because of that feeling of being made to feel like 'less.' And yeah, no one meant to make either of us feel that way. But whenever I'm here, I have to continually remind myself that there is nothing wrong with me for being run of the mill middle class. I actually grew up in a working class town, and my friends all saw me as rich, even though I knew I wasn't, and I definitely know that I'm not when I'm at Whitman. Everyone else I know went to state schools, community college, bible school, or are still at Wal-Mart. I saw my getting into Whitman as special and unusual. My parent that grew up poor burst into tears when I got my acceptance letter. It's been great to get to know people from different walks of life. Most people here are very nice. I wish I could "un-shelter" them, but all I can do is share my experience and listen to others. I guess it is still kind of a shock that my experience is seen as anything but normal.

And yes, 1st commenter, it'd be great to talk more with you.
—OP
Posted at two o'clock in the afternoon on December 18th, 2014.  link  

Hey ASWC—

      How about a real resolution?

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/wonkblog/wp/2014/12/10/congress-cuts-federal-financial-aid-for-needy-students/

—Pell Kid

Posted at five o'clock in the evening on December 14th, 2014.  link   hide  
oh yes because aswc has any amount of real power
—Anonymous
Posted at six o'clock in the evening on December 14th, 2014.  link  
I mean, they might as well go for it, but I wouldn't expect their resolution to carry much weight with the administration. At this point, the only sway that students really have over the trustees is their tuition dollars, their parents' donations (as well as any donations they might give in the future) and, to a lesser degree, the college's PR game. And only the PR is being even remotely threatened right now.

ASWC talks. Money grabs by the throat and dictates.
—I'm not saying we should all transfer. But it could definitely help student voice around here.
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on December 16th, 2014.  link  
PROTEST PROTEST PROTEST
—haha yeah right
Posted at a quarter to six in the evening on December 17th, 2014.  link  

Anastasia Steel—

      You are a girl that has submissive tendencies. I am an experienced guy looking for a girl that I can lead down the rabbit hole. Safe, sane, fun and consensual. Let's talk.

—Christian Grey

Posted at a quarter past one in the afternoon on December 17th, 2014.  link   hide  
there could be nothing creepier
—Anonymous
Posted at half past three in the afternoon on December 17th, 2014.  link  
god those names
how unfortunate
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to six in the evening on December 17th, 2014.  link  
^ It's actually Steele, see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fifty_Shades_of_Grey
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to six in the evening on December 17th, 2014.  link  

love doctors—

      Is it weird to want to hook up with your twin sister? She's been going to college in Pennsylvania for acting, and I can't stop thinking about her when we're apart. Whennever we see each hother at home in Colorado, I feel whole again. I try to act naturally, but i think it's starting to slip. Every time I masturbate I try to think about other girls, especially this redhead in my math class. But right as I'm about to cum, my sister's face pops into my mind. I think I might be in love with her. Do I ask the redhead out? Do I come clean with my sister?

—confused climber

Posted at eleven o'clock in the evening on December 10th, 2014.  link   hide  
Since we're anonymous I can say that I never saw any problem in hooking up with family members of the same generation consensually, so long as you aren't planning on reproducing. So at the very least these sorts of thoughts are not, in my opinion, dirty or anything, if that makes you feel better.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to twelve in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link  
Is it weird? Bro, you're taking "weird" to the max!
—concerned friend
Posted at eight o'clock in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link  
The only reason people have such an aversion to incest is because of the increased risk for genetic abnormalities. Incest isn't extremely common, so while it's not always a great idea to reproduce if you fall in love with a close relative, it doesn't otherwise do any harm and there isn't really a threat to the gene pool because it doesn't happen that often, and when it does, I don't see any harm in it if it's two consenting adults. If that's the case, it should be nobody's business but theirs, and I think that should legally extend to relatives, even though I couldn't imagine myself falling in love with a relative. I think parent-child incest is harmful, because of power discrepancies and possible pedophilia, but if it's consensual and between people of the same generation, then yeah, I see no harm in it. English nobility used to have siblings and cousins marry each other to keep the line. Then later it became stereotyped with poor whites/country bumpkins and suddenly it was seen as something to mock. While uncommon because of supposed protections in place (being raised together, learning to be competitive with one another) is supposed to keep incest from happening, sometimes it happens anyway due to other forces. People tend to like what we see as like us. That can mean similar views, and sometimes similar appearance. There are a lot of instances of siblings being raised apart, or not too close together, and then meeting and falling in love later. And I think this is even more common with cousins, because they can be a lot like us, but we weren't raised in the same house as they were (usually), so little crushes can develop. I've known many people who say that they've had a crush on cousin, but that they were repulsed by it and would never act on it. Why is that? Because that's what we're taught to think about relatives being together. And I have felt attracted to a few of my cousins, but I would never act on it because of the stigma. When I and my opposite sex, same age first cousin hung out together when we were twelve, I had a huge crush on them but knew not to admit it because of the stigma. I could tell it was mutual, but we couldn't do anything about it. When I see them now, I don't feel that same level of attraction, but I definitely feel a sense of connection and belonging with them because we are so similar. When I hung out with my Dad's cousin's kids as a seven-year-old child, I immediately bonded with the opposite sex cousin and we were inseparable and holding hands for the entire weekend that my family was visiting. At that age, everyone just thought it was really cute because we were too young to have sexual feelings, but there was a deep sense of connection. Anyway, attraction between family members is normal, especially if they didn't grow up together. Maybe less common with siblings than with cousins, but it's normal. It probably has more to do with the fact that you feel like you belong when you're with similar people, and sometimes that can be love, sexual or not. People are very complicated creatures.
—ramble ramble
Posted at half past eight in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link  
"The only reason people have such an aversion to incest is because of the increased risk for genetic abnormalities."

Gonna call you out right there. People have no innate understanding of science like that. The only reason people have an aversion to incest is because it has been historically coded in Western culture as bad.

Actually, a single generation of incest isn't really that big of a deal, the increased risk only happens when it occurs over generations (see: royalty). It is, at worst, like being with anyone else who you aren't genetically compatible with, which happens all the time.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past two in the morning on December 12th, 2014.  link  
^I totally get why you saw what I said in that way. However, I was alluding to the fact that the societal stigma came from general biological tendencies to mate with people with different genetic material. Or am I wrong, is it not usually biological to not want to mate with people who are too close to us genetically? And obviously the tendency is complicated and other forces can override it, such as a desire to feel accepted and connected and that could manifest into a person not only turning to their family, but becoming attracted to them, though it is less common.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to twelve in the morning on December 13th, 2014.  link  
^Different commenter, here. I think there is a biological impulse away from incest, since it's very rare in the animal kingdom--there is some kind of biological hardwiring against it. But that said, I actually don't see what's wrong with it, provided it's within the same generation of people (brother-sister rather than father-daughter) and it doesn't become common practice, to the point that the genetic problems come out.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past nine in the morning on December 13th, 2014.  link  
Acting school in Pennsylvania? Redhead in math class? Signed "confused climber"? This is obviously a joke.
—Jesus christ people, stop feeding the trolls
Posted at a quarter past three in the afternoon on December 14th, 2014.  link  
Yeah, that's a few too many way-too-recognizable personal details to be believable. Still, it's kind of interesting that it sparked such a serious conversation.
—Bemused skeptic
Posted at a quarter past four in the afternoon on December 14th, 2014.  link  
Almost interesting enough to render the usual "don't feed the trolls" guy an utterly useless jackass.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past one in the afternoon on December 15th, 2014.  link  
It's hot if you're twin sisters; if you're her brother it's disgusting, immoral, rape, sick etc.
—But it's good if you're sisters, but only if you're hot
Posted at a quarter to two in the morning on December 17th, 2014.  link  

People of finals—

      I know its been a rough week, but I believe in you! It will all be over in a few days!

—don't worry, It will be ok

Posted at a quarter past twelve in the evening on December 14th, 2014.  link   hide  
thank you nice person!!! I believe in you, too.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past ten in the evening on December 14th, 2014.  link  

check it—

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ainyK6fXku0&feature=youtu.be

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter past eight in the evening on December 14th, 2014.  link   hide  
I love Pulp. I am conflicted about Shatner. This combination, however, is nothing short of glorious.
—I wanna Trek like common people
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on December 14th, 2014.  link  
Excellent anti-slumming anthem
—Urban History peeps?
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on December 14th, 2014.  link  

Open-Minded Sex Fiends—

      My goal before I graduate next semester is to have a consensual and safe threesome or orgy. Any folks down? I'm a single, cis-gendered woman interested in all gender combinations. Email me, and let's make this happen!

—Girl next door

Posted at half past six in the evening on December 1st, 2014.  link   hide  
down.
—a lady
Posted at half past six in the evening on December 2nd, 2014.  link  
Double down
—A gent
Posted at ten o'clock in the evening on December 2nd, 2014.  link  
please me
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past five in the evening on December 3rd, 2014.  link  
Please please me oh yeah like I please you
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past eight in the evening on December 3rd, 2014.  link  
OP what's up with this?
—curious
Posted at half past seven in the evening on December 5th, 2014.  link  
OP - are you still looking to do this? We need a threesome before the year is over! Open minded good looking guy here!
—Threesomeexpert, maybe
Posted at a quarter to twelve in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link  
OP are you gonna respond? We want to participate!
—Anonymous
Posted at half past ten in the evening on December 13th, 2014.  link  

Constructive info please—

      I'm fully aware of the mental health stigma, as it has hurt me and many close to me. If you feel something, you want to assume that it's valid, but that can get messy if you have a mental illness that messes with rational thinking. How can one tell whether someone is just mean, or if they have an illness that keeps them from thinking rationally? Is it a difference in intensity? Is it impossible to tell because we don't have the societal knowledge of that yet because of a pervasive mental health stigma keeping us from learning how to deal with and treat it? This is part of why this stigma is so destructive. We don't even know how to differentiate it, and people can get labeled as mean and nasty when in actuality, they are suffering.

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter to one in the morning on December 13th, 2014.  link   hide  
This might get kind of complicated, but bear with me.

So the concept of rational thinking is tricky. Are you referring to rational thinking as using your thoughts to alter or justify your feelings, or your beliefs about what is fact?

In the case of a lot of mental disorders, a person may have negative thoughts, but often times, he or she knows that they are not rational. For example, someone with OCD might logically understand that they do not need to wash hands exactly 4 times in order to avoid bad luck, but they feel compulsed to do so regardless. And that's part of what makes mental disorders illnesses; the person suffering feels debilitated and/or controlled by it.

In contrast, in some mental disorders, the sufferer experiences thoughts or feelings that they don't realize are abnormal or illogical. As far as I know, this is only the case in psychotic disorders, such as schizophrenia (a person may not know that they are hallucinating), and personality disorders. One of the defining characteristics of personality disorders is that the person does not believe they have a problem at all. So when it comes to rational thinking, they tend to see the other person as being in the wrong. Someone with borderline personality disorder, for example, is extremely sensitive to fears of abandonment, and might assume that somebody forgetting their lunch date meant that that person intended to hurt them. The conclusion is irrational, but they cannot recognize it.

As far as your comment about stigma goes, I'm a little confused about what you're asking. Does the stigma keep people from learning about and understanding mental disorders? I think it's the opposite– the lack of understanding leads to the stigma. That's why awareness is so important.

But you're right. A lot of the time, somebody who is outwardly aggressive is so for a reason. Sometimes, it is a diagnosable illness. Sometimes it's not. But regardless, it's not our place to judge their intentions.
—Psych major
Posted at a quarter to six in the evening on December 13th, 2014.  link  
Nobody wants to be a jerk. Jerks don't have friends. People like friends, and know this. If someone is a jerk to you, it is probably not intentional.

Sometimes it is mental issue, sometimes it is lack of experience, sometimes it is cultral difference, sometimes it is bad day / bad mood; honestly, to me it doesn't matter much. You won't get along with everyone, that's the way life is, but you shouldn't take that personally. And don't be afraid to call someone out, but do so in a manner that seeks to understand instead of one that is angry or attacking, because then you will help solve the problem instead of put everyone on the defensive.

To answer your question: the sorts of mental illnesses you are talking about are the ones where a person and society doesn't mesh well (things like reduced empathy response, poor language skills, that sort of thing), and i think that those are pretty much a spectrum not a hard line. The clinical level at which someone is diagnosed is when it has a negative affect on you or the people around you and keeps you from functioning properly, but again that's not a clear-cut thing. Nobody thinks rationally all the time, and there are a lot of factors that affect how that develops and how it affects our lives.

Mental health stigma is destructive, and i would go farther and say the culture of taking things personally and demonizing others just because they don't act in the way you expect them to is destructive. Even people who do really shitty things are people and have feelings and the same sorts of motivations that everyone else has, and it is circumstance more than it is anything else that they wind up pursuing those in destructive ways.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to six in the evening on December 13th, 2014.  link  
Yes, I'm talking about the process of validating our thoughts and feelings.
—OP
Posted at a quarter past eight in the evening on December 13th, 2014.  link  
And I agree with all of those things.
—OP
Posted at a quarter past eight in the evening on December 13th, 2014.  link  

Now is the time...—

      ...to get rid of stupid laws, like those against selling untaxed cigarettes. Racial prejudice will be with us for a long time, including in our police forces, but let's eliminate the outlets for this unacceptable aggression.

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter to eleven in the morning on December 11th, 2014.  link   hide  
Even if we do get rid of those, people will find other excuses to kill unarmed black people. :(
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to one in the morning on December 13th, 2014.  link  

Girls who smoke—

      I am inexplicably turned on by watching girls smoking. Would anyone like to smoke in front of me, and let me get off? And maybe more ;)

—Horny

Posted at a quarter past four in the afternoon on November 23rd, 2014.  link   hide  
that is pretty fucking disturbing.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past one in the morning on November 24th, 2014.  link  
I guess I can see why OP would be turned on by it-- there's some pretty sexy motions involved in smoking, and you can't deny it makes one exude a sort of coolness that can be pretty hot.

That said, it's far from a typical fetish. Takes all kinds, and they're all here.
—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the morning on November 24th, 2014.  link  
I like being dominated by women.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past three in the afternoon on November 24th, 2014.  link  
the fetish isn't the part that is disturbing
—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on November 24th, 2014.  link  
if the fetish isn't disturbing then what is disturbing about this?
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to twelve in the morning on November 25th, 2014.  link  
"Would anyone like to smoke in front of me, and let me get off?" that is not an okay thing to ask someone.

"hey i don't know you but wanna do this thing for me so i can sexually objectify you? i'm horny"
—Anonymous
Posted at two o'clock in the morning on November 25th, 2014.  link  
I mean, that's a large portion of Encounters.

Pretty much any random hookup is going to be based entirely on some pretty trivial things, and a system of exchange-- the guy left it pretty open-ended, I doubt he would refuse to do something that the woman in question asked him to do.

It's hard to condemn this sort of objectification without condemning pretty much the entirety of hookup culture. It has its flaws, and it's not for me, but I'm not going to say it's entirely wrong for other people to do it.
—"Takes all kinds" above
Posted at a quarter to six in the evening on November 25th, 2014.  link  
to the "that is not an okay thing to ask someone". I agree, except this person isn't asking someone. they're posting on an anonymous message board and not directing this at any particular person. There's a huge difference between asking people at a party if someone is willing to smoke in front of them and asking whitmanencounters. Just like going up to someone at a party and saying "hi, i'm a senior looking to make the most of my remaining time here. i'm looking for an attractive companion to cuddle and potentially have sex with" would likely be considered creepy in that environment. The great thing about anonymous message boards is that they aren't directed at any particular person (hopefully). The part that you need to deal with is that this requires a degree of concession. You don't really get to dictate what is and is not acceptable insofar as it isn't directed at you.

TLDR: the point of anonymous message boards is being able to post what you wouldn't normally say
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to one in the afternoon on December 1st, 2014.  link  
Does anyone get turned on by girls burping? Can any girls here burp?
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to four in the afternoon on December 1st, 2014.  link  
I get turned on by snoring. It is odd as fuck.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past one in the morning on December 3rd, 2014.  link  
^Is that a legit fetish
—Anonymous
Posted at half past eight in the evening on December 3rd, 2014.  link  
God, I hope so.
—Sleep Apnea Man, the world's new most useless superhero
Posted at a quarter to one in the morning on December 4th, 2014.  link  
Cigarette Smoking (Wo)Man?
—Anonymous
Posted at four o'clock in the afternoon on December 8th, 2014.  link  
I think smoking does kind of look sexy. I know how bad it is for you, but it just looks like a form of rebellion. I'll never do it, but I do have to admit that I like its' outward appearance and I understand the appeal. There are a ton of smokers in my family, and I could have been one, too, if I didn't understand the unhealthy context behind it. So, I sympathize with them. Non-smokers are no better than smokers. We all have demons.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past six in the evening on December 8th, 2014.  link  
smoking is the shit
but it also kills you dead
maybe you shouldn't
—Anonymous
Posted at seven o'clock in the evening on December 8th, 2014.  link  
I like Haikus too
Sometimes I write them for fun
Refrigerator
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past one in the morning on December 9th, 2014.  link  
haikus so randum
haha "refrigerator"
lolz *raises spork* hi
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past two in the afternoon on December 9th, 2014.  link  
Haikus are so fun
I'm a procrastinator
Work haunts me always
—Anonymous
Posted at half past three in the afternoon on December 9th, 2014.  link  
There are creepier fetishes in this world.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to one in the morning on December 13th, 2014.  link  

privileged shits—

      okay so this literally makes me so mad. why are people fucking leaving their bon app dishes just lying around in academic buildings???? It's so fucking rude. Like who do you think is gonna pick those up?? I've seen three dirty plates just lying around in the science building in the past week alone, one of them sitting right outside some professor's offices. It's not the janitors' jobs to take care of your dirty dishes. So disrespectful, honestly. Fucking take responsibility for your messes and carry your dish with you until you go to the dining hall again and save us all from having to see your dirty shit lying around.

—Pissed senior

Posted at twelve o'clock in the morning on December 9th, 2014.  link   hide  
Preach.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past one in the morning on December 9th, 2014.  link  
I completely agree with this, but does it really have to do with them being privileged? Maybe they're just assholes with or without privilege.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past ten in the morning on December 9th, 2014.  link  
I do agree that anyone of any monetary background can be a total pig, and I have known clean and messy people from a variety of monetary backgrounds. Even so, I've met some very messy rich kids here. I'm not talking about clutter or disorganized backpacks, but spilling things and not wiping it up, and being so absent-minded that they leave unfinished food sitting out and it starts to rot. I'm pretty sure that these individuals I have known are rich, and I wonder if they are so rich that they have constant housekeepers, because the way that some of them just leave things like unfinished bowls of cereal out and cease to think about it just seems extreme to me. Don't get me wrong, I've known very tidy wealthy people, too, but extreme forgetfulness like that seems indicative that they're used to having someone else clean up after them, and I think that assumption is more common the higher up you go on the monetary scale.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past two in the afternoon on December 9th, 2014.  link  
jerks come in all backgrounds
—Anonymous
Posted at half past three in the afternoon on December 9th, 2014.  link  
Kindness isn't class-based.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on December 9th, 2014.  link  
LIBERAL ARTS STUDENTS OF THE WORLD UNITE!
—AAAAAAHHHHHH
Posted at a quarter to two in the morning on December 10th, 2014.  link  
In a dirty dish protest?
—Anonymous
Posted at half past ten in the morning on December 10th, 2014.  link  
Messy people suck. If it's your room, whatever, few will see it, but if it's anything else, take some fucking responsibility and fucking clean up!!
—Anonymous
Posted at one o'clock in the morning on December 12th, 2014.  link  
OKAY there are some dirty dishes sitting on the third floor of the science building next to the astronomy classroom RIGHT NOW. THE ACADEMIC BUILDINGS ARE NOT YOUR PERSONAL DEPOSITORY FOR YOUR DIRTY DISHES, where they magically disappear after a few days. There is no other reason for leave your mess lying around than pure laziness and a massive disrespect for the other people who use the building, and you're making the assumption that it's someone else's job to clean up after you. Surprise, it's your own fucking responsibility!! Welcome to the adult world.
—OP
Posted at eight o'clock in the evening on December 12th, 2014.  link  
OK, I agree this is not a good thing to do, but I think OP is overreacting a bit. I understand if dirty dishes are some kind of intense trigger for personal reasons, but otherwise expending this much energy raging about what is ultimately a minor dick move leads me to believe your outlook might not be healthy.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to nine in the evening on December 12th, 2014.  link  
Should dishes come with trigger warnings?
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past ten in the evening on December 12th, 2014.  link  
I agree with you and the attitude of people who do such things is shitty and inconsiderate, and it makes me really angry, too. But yeah, it's probably good to work to let it not get to you as much. People can't be changed, they have to change themselves.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past eleven in the evening on December 12th, 2014.  link  

First Commenter—

      It appears that leaving contact information on the yak is unacceptable behavior, so I'll leave it here for you.

—18th century style

Posted at half past two in the afternoon on December 12th, 2014.  link   hide  
The lady hath given unto her love a handkerchief!
—Now we shall see how he tilteth at the lists
Posted at a quarter past four in the afternoon on December 12th, 2014.  link  

Naked Mile In Winter—

      We have to wait a whole year to run The Mile. Why not do it in the winter too? I know it's cold and sometimes slippery, but sure we can deal with that, can't we? What do you people think? It can be just one lap or running back and forth from one to another. Myself, I'm definitely running naked the night of the last day of classes. Who is with me?

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter past five in the evening on December 6th, 2014.  link   hide  
That's not really a Naked Mile. That's just a naked person running around.
—The difference is subtle but significant
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on December 6th, 2014.  link  
I'm planning on doing it and wanted to know if other people where waiting for the opportunity to run naked too.
—OP- nude solidarity
Posted at a quarter to four in the afternoon on December 7th, 2014.  link  
eeek. Sounds cold. I commend you all for your body confidence and temperature tolerance.
—Anonymous
Posted at four o'clock in the afternoon on December 8th, 2014.  link  
well now it's happening!
—Anonymous
Posted at half past nine in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link  

Anyone—

      I want to die. Any helpers or advice givers?

—Done

Posted at a quarter past seven in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link   hide  
Please consider going to the counseling center. Help is available.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link  
Yes, or just reach out to someone. I wanted to die last year, or rather, felt that living just wasn't worth it. Just reach out to a close friend or family member. They will be more understanding than you think. It doesn't have to be this way. A year ago, I felt that I would never feel happy again, but that wasn't true. I hope for the best for you!
—Anonymous
Posted at half past nine in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link  

How do I spot—

      a toxic person? How can I tell if I am one?

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter to eleven in the evening on November 24th, 2014.  link   hide  
Have you showered recently?
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to one in the morning on November 25th, 2014.  link  
Feed a little bit of them to a rat or a mouse. Wait a day or so and see what happens. If nothing, steadily increase the dosage until the rodent's entire diet consists of your subject's flesh.

If it doesn't show health issues before that, then feel free to remain friends with this person. To that end, it may behoove you to apologize as profusely as possible for feeding their body parts to a rat.
—Dr. Mengele
Posted at half past one in the morning on November 25th, 2014.  link  
People aren't toxic, relationships are
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to three in the morning on November 25th, 2014.  link  
People aren't toxic; guns are toxic.
—Reagan
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on November 29th, 2014.  link  
Did you ever use TM06 on yourself?
—Professor Oak
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on November 29th, 2014.  link  
Do you feel worse after hanging out with this person?
Do you feel like they suck all of the energy out of you?
Do you feel like you have to bond with them through your problems rather than through anything positive?
Do they then tell you how to live your life because they claim to 'know you' through your problems?
Do they gossip about other people?
Do you feel like you are made to feel secondary whenever you are around this person? Do you feel like you have to win this person's approval?
Does this person refuse to apologize for any hurtful behavior or otherwise act like they think they're infallible?

there are lots of types of toxic people, but this is a type I'm unfortunately familiar with
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to four in the afternoon on December 9th, 2014.  link  
^"Do they gossip about other people?"
Kind of ironic when you're posting about someone on a public forum.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past four in the afternoon on December 9th, 2014.  link  
^Listing a behavior as toxic and saying that you're familiar with that kind of behavior, and even remembering specific individuals who behaved that way toward you is not the same thing as targeting a specific person by listing those things. I modeled that list off of psychology articles and personal advice from friends and counselors that have helped me know when to stay away from people.
—Anonymous
Posted at five o'clock in the evening on December 9th, 2014.  link  
^^^if someone thinks that that list is about them or someone they know, what does that say about their character? it could be about anyone. people have a right to post their perspective of what bad behavior is without naming or specifically targeting someone.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past five in the evening on December 9th, 2014.  link  
the only bad possible outcome was that the person that its about might guess that someone is venting about them anonymously on the internet. so what? oh no, they're venting about me anonymously about mean things I've done, how dare they? who the f is gonna know its about u unless you know how much of a jerk u were to them? and if u think that a post lik that is about u then that sure says alot
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to six in the evening on December 9th, 2014.  link  
Commenter 1: Toxic people treat you in this way

Commenter 2: That's about me!

Not something to be proud of there..why would you think that was about you unless the commenter is right?
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past seven in the evening on December 9th, 2014.  link  
Back to the list itself, that just sounds like narcissism.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on December 9th, 2014.  link  
Extreme narcissism IS toxic. Wait. so the above person got mad because they thought that the list was alluding to someone in particular? that's how the person who made the list was treated, and you're mad at THEM for venting about it in an anonymous place where only the person who was mean would even be able to think that it could maybe be about them? If it's true, if that's how they were treated, they have every right to vent or offer helpful tips for dealing with people who would treat others like that. It's not right to target, but they didn't do that. It sounds like they were hurt in the past and wanted to help someone in a similar situation.
—Also had a similar experience
Posted at a quarter to one in the morning on December 10th, 2014.  link  
Woah guys, let's calm down. I agree with everything you've been saying, including the items on the list, but don't you think it's jumping to some serious conclusions to say that the commenter above thought the list was about them? All I see is someone alluding to hypocrisy. Maybe wrongfully so, but calling them an extreme narcissist is a little unwarranted, don't you think? Just because this forum is anonymous doesn't mean it's okay to gang up on someone, especially if we don't know the whole situation.

I agree with everything on the list, AND I think there are also toxic people who make themselves look like a victim in lots of situations where they're not, and they'll seek validation from strangers instead of healthy sources. I don't know that that's the case for the commentor who wrote the list, but all of these situations about people's characters are possible. So can we agree to just stop making assumptions?
—Anonymous
Posted at half past six in the morning on December 10th, 2014.  link  
Wow, I wrote the list. Didn't think people would get so fired up about it!
—Anonymous
Posted at half past ten in the morning on December 10th, 2014.  link  
I've written about my thoughts and experiences a lot on here, but it's not really about validation for me, even if someone anonymously replies to me. I just like typing and writing about myself and seeing how others type and write about themselves. I like the mystery and not knowing who's saying what. This school often feels uptight, but on here, people are honest. And seeing other people's honesty is refreshing. It's also good to read angsty, teenagery things you'd never say out loud anymore and identify with it. So I guess in that sense it's about validation, but I don't expect people to read what I write and say, yes, commenter #5, you are the greatest being that ever lived.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past nine in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link  

Yall—

      Sorry for the TMI, but there's something wrong with me.

I cant cum during sex. It's actually making me feel depressed/inadequate/self hatred. I can cum amazingly through masturbation but not through sex. I've had sex several times this year and nothing. It's horrible. I know women have a harder time achieving orgasms but I just can't cum. No matter what he does. It's tearing my soul apart.

So any suggestions? Should I stop masturbating? Just go cold turkey then have sex and see if that works? I love sex but not being to cum is finally getting to me. What should I do?!? Help!!!

—21 yr old girl who needs relief (and who should focus on her finals)

Posted at eight o'clock in the evening on December 10th, 2014.  link   hide  
DON'T STOP- http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/masturbate
it's most important to know what makes you oh la la- and you got that one down so you are beyond good!
You are fabulous, don't put yourself down! Your vagina is magnificent, give it love and patience- this problem is sooooo common-
and just know that it is totally great to not orgasm during sex too, do what feels good- sex should have an end goal, it is just fun! you can always finish yourself off with your partner too if you're really looking for release
Don't fret dear,
Your doing everything just right, we are all our own unique flowers that require different care
Its all about headspace love,
think positive and be in the moment
—a fellow labia lover
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on December 10th, 2014.  link  
I don't think not cumming during sex if you're a woman or even a man means that you need to feel bad about it. People put way too much emphasis on cumming. And people are much much better at getting themselves off than at getting others off, sometimes just because we usually start masturbating before we start doing anything with other people. And nobody will ever know you as well as you do. It's best to focus on the fun of being intimate with someone you like rather than trying to get to a point that just may not...come :-)
—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link  
As the person above said, don't give up!

While this is just my personal experience, I think it just takes practice being fully comfortable with it. I also had never cum during sex (but a-ok with masturbation) until my current relationship (I'd had a couple relationships before). The first time it happened, it took probably 45 minutes of him going down on me (god, like a champ, wow). After that, it seemed to become a lot easier because I was in the mindset that I knew it could happen and so there wasn't as much of a mental block against it. Now it takes like 20 minutes of him going down on me, so it's still relatively long but it's getting better and easier.

So I think the main summary here is that I was also a person who thought that it just might never happen for me, but that changed. For me, it was all about being with a person who I was totally comfortable with and who was 100% committed to getting me off, and removing that mental block and telling myself that it would be possible. Just know that there's nothing wrong with you and just work on trying to relax.

Good luck!!
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link  

Girls of Whitman—

      I am looking for a cool girl to cuddle, snuggle and laugh with as the weather gets colder. About me: aside from being highly qualified with advanced degrees in cuddling, massage and spooning, I am also very easy on the eyes (tall dark and handsome type;)), 6'1 tall, fit, and fun. Email me and let's start to cuddle away!

—Cuddler in Chief

Posted at a quarter to twelve in the evening on December 11th, 2014.  link   hide  

Study Buddies—

      Anyone in the library have a lighter?!
Trade ya for a hand rolled cigarette!

—a fire forgetter

Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on December 10th, 2014.  link   hide  
Desk bear the fish bowl.
—Black lipstick.
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on December 10th, 2014.  link  
yes, bear.
—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on December 10th, 2014.  link  
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