Opinion time—I think that the crusade to improve everyone's body image is perhaps taken too far, to the point that it sweeps the legitimate issues with obesity under the rug. No one should feel ashamed of how they look, but it's counter productive to discourage people from making healthier lifestyle choices just to protect their egos.
Not everyone who is obese is so because of lifestyle choices. I get that. Endocrine disorders can make slimming down damn near impossible; that doesn't change the fact that an over abundance of adipose tissue generally correlates to lots of health problems that are an expensive national burden.
to discourage obese individuals from pursuing healthier lifestyle choices on the basis of improving their self image is tantamount to encouraging their medical decline.
Finally, before anyone shouts privilege, it's possible to live a healthy lifestyle on a tight budget. Exercise is free if you have legs to run with and an upper body to do push-ups with. I've been able to eat fresh, whole foods for less than $7 a day without growing any of my own. Instead of making excuses that legitimize unhealthy lifestyles, we should be focusing our efforts on saving lives.
—*dawns body armor in anticipation of knee jerk reactions*
Ugh.—Every time I think about you, my heart actually starts to hurt. I've never really stopped caring about you. I say I'm your friend, I've foolishly fooled around with you, and I'd convinced myself that I needed to pull away from you, but that only hurt even more. What I feel is an addiction. It's not healthy, but I keep going back to you and pretending I'm just there to be your friend. I'm afraid that on some level, you know exactly what's going on, and you're just using me. That'd be even worse than you having no idea. I can't wait until our eventual graduation. At least that will force this hideous cycle to stop.
Anyone who pretends to care.—I'm thinking of transferring. Whitman is too expensive, it puts too much of a strain on my family financially, my financial aid was almost laughable, I had a shit-show of a sophomore year, all of my friends are too busy being RAs to care about anything else, and the only thing I want to go back for is class. And I'm not sure that 50000+ a year is worth a lot more depression and lonely nights in the library.
—The person who used to be in love with this school.
I think—I've become more in love with the idea of love than any particular person for the last year or two. I'm not sure if I've become too selfish, or if it's just that no one suitable for me happens to be in my current surroundings. At this time of night, I sometimes start having forever alone thoughts. I hope I can think back upon writing this post in the future and laugh about how silly I was to have written this.
Gentlemen in Walla Walla (Summer)—I've dabbled in the ink well, but never had the quill.
Looking to makeout, give/take head, but wouldn't mind flirting first. Or roleplaying? I think that would be hot.
Send me some face shots. No response if otherwise. Dick-pics aren't amusing. Let's talk. I'm romantic. I'll make you omelettes.
All the people I have contacted this summer...—You suck. I don't know why I still try to stay in contact and have a one-way relationship. And I'm not saying that you need to write me a long letter or anything but text back would be nice. Or if I text you in the first place a response would be the least you could do. And don't just fucking apologize that you've "fallen out of the loop" and then continue not responding. If you don't want to be friends anymore have the fucking guts to tell me.
—All my friends who give a fuck are gone next semester.
Seeking some opinions—I was recently informed that in a heterosexual relationship it is considered the girl's job to say "I love you" first. Now, popular opinion may be a bunch of baloney, but...I'm thinking I might be in love with my significant other. But I'd like to hear those words said to me first. Is there any chance of that happening or will this supposed social norm hold him back until I say it? Is this an actual social norm??
everyone—Great article, I highly recommend giving it a read.