Fat-shaming—

      Is NOT a system of oppression if literally anyone can be fat, yes EVEN RICH WHITE DEVILS CIS SCUM WOMEN-HATING MALES. So stop blaming us thin people for your sorry fat ass.

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter past nine in the morning on October 22nd, 2014.  link   hide  
What are you even talking about? You sound so ignorant. Not everyone who is fat is ashamed of being fat, the word fat is subjective, and those who feel fat and don't want to be definitely feel oppressed and inferior, especially if they're a woman. I'm no longer 'fat,' but it's not just a matter of willpower. Overrating can be a symptom of something else, an insecurity, a mental illness, a full-blown eating disorder. That can't be overcome by willpower alone. It is possible to be addicted to food, or to things like binge eating when stressed. And would you say what you just said to an overweight kid? For them, there's even less of a sense of control, especially of their parents are feeding them too much or too much processed food and it warps their sense of portion size and what they 'should' eat.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to one in the afternoon on October 22nd, 2014.  link  
Daily reminder that weight is a social construct, and that there is absolutely no reason to improve yourself in any way.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past eleven in the evening on October 22nd, 2014.  link  
http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2014/09/11/fat-shaming-doesnt-work-a-new-study-says/
—Anonymous
Posted at half past eleven in the evening on October 22nd, 2014.  link  
"It's someone else's fault I can't lose weight!"
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to twelve in the morning on October 23rd, 2014.  link  
RE: "There is absolutely no reason to improve yourself in any way."

Well. I wouldn't go that far.
—[leaf]
Posted at half past twelve in the morning on October 23rd, 2014.  link  

Other girls—

      My boyfriend wants to try anal with me? I'm really not sure about this... helpful hints/suggestions? Is it really that good?

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter to nine in the morning on October 21st, 2014.  link   hide  
If you really loved him, you'd do it.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to seven in the evening on October 21st, 2014.  link  
As a girl, I found that anal wasn't super pleasurable to me... in fact, slightly unpleasant. I hear that some girls like it, so it's worth a shot.

(With that in mind... use LOTS of lube)
—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on October 21st, 2014.  link  
^I can't tell if that's a troll pulling the cliche "If you really loved me, you'd do it" line, or if it's saying that if you're at all wary of anything physical with him, then you shouldn't be with him because, in that point of view, you'd be willing to try anything with someone that you were crazy about. If that's not a troll, then I can sort of see where they're coming from, but I don't think that's true for everyone. Some people are very specific about physical things they just would not do and it wouldn't matter how much they loved the person. I was very much in love with the last person I was with, but I don't want to try anal with anyone because I'm afraid of hurting that area...yeesh. That said, I've never done that, but I've accidentally had that area touched by both me and someone else, and it felt *really* good, but I'm still afraid of the potential pain of going all the way to anal. It's up to you to decide if you think this means that you're not attracted to him or if you're just not into that particular act. If you really care for him but just don't want to try it, don't do it just to make him happy, because you'd be neglecting your needs. If he is a decent human being, he will understand and be considerate of your point of view.

—Anonymous
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on October 21st, 2014.  link  
This question can be answered by a man too, cause humans are not that different anatomically, especially there. If you decide doing it. Buy yourself a butt plug kit with different sizes so you can train yourself. Some lubes or even a finger can irritate (burning feeling) the walls of your rectum, it is a matter of getting used to it. Silicon lubes are best, although I don't know if it could damage the condom, I don't think so. Put a condom on the butt plug, it's better that way. Also, you should get an anal douche so you can clean your rectum before sex. Here are some videos of the same series about anal pleasure:
http://xhamster.com/movies/547634/better_sex_guide_to_anal_pleasure_pt_1.html
http://xhamster.com/movies/558683/better_sex_guide_to_anal_pleasure_pt_2.html
http://xhamster.com/movies/558687/better_sex_guide_to_anal_pleasure_pt_3.html
http://xhamster.com/movies/564475/better_sex_guide_to_anal_pleasure_pt_4.html
http://xhamster.com/movies/568125/better_sex_guide_to_anal_pleasure_pt_5.html
http://xhamster.com/movies/568135/better_sex_guide_to_anal_pleasure_the_end.html
—guy who knows
Posted at ten o'clock in the morning on October 22nd, 2014.  link  
If he wants to try anal with you, then have him give you a rim job first. This will physically loosen up and turn you on (surprisingly) so that anal sex is actually possible without a ton of pain. If he is going to ask anal of you, then it's only fair that you get to ask things of him.
—a senior girl
Posted at half past six in the evening on October 22nd, 2014.  link  

I don't know what's worse—

      Forcing myself to fit in with more people here that I don't feel close to just so I won't be bored, or just spending my remaining time here alone unless it's with the handful of people I've managed to actually become close with.

I was never the most popular kid in high school, but I felt a much greater connection to that social scene than I do to most people here. For a while, I thought it was because I'd been depressed and wasn't exactly approachable. Now that I'm not depressed, I've strengthened relationships with the friends I do have, but I haven't made any new friendships in a year. I know that I'm finally open to it again, but it seems like no one else who is no longer a freshman or sophomore cares about wanting to meet anyone new. Ugh. Sometimes I wish I was a freshman again. I would at least know not to take the constant opportunities for new friends for granted.

—Anonymous

Posted at half past nine in the evening on October 21st, 2014.  link   hide  
I could have written the exact same thing, and I bet allot of others feel the same. Sometimes I worry we isolate ourselves.
—-Eli
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on October 21st, 2014.  link  
Aw, you don't have to force yourself to fit in! There are people who will appreciate you just the way you are! Finding them can be difficult, 's all, but don't give up!

…Okay, that sounded super cheesy. Trying to be cheerful because I'm in the same boat. I feel like Whitman's incredible focus on academics and involvement and accomplishment severely hurts people's ability to maintain more than a couple close friendships. I think it says something when skipping class or neglecting homework to spend time and support the people you care about feels almost like a crime. Makes it damn hard to make new friends when everyone is already overworked and overstressed.
—[leaf]
Posted at half past one in the afternoon on October 22nd, 2014.  link  

I want a boy—

      I want to hook up and be buddies, and maybe even be true friends or more if the feelings and the desire are there. I'd like to keep things low-key but I don't want it to have to be a total secret. Since this is first and foremost about sex, I'd like it if you were attractive (and I'm attractive myself, so I think that's fair to ask) and if you were regularly- or well-endowed. You should email me if this sounds like you and what you want!

—Anonymous

Posted at eight o'clock in the evening on October 18th, 2014.  link   hide  
emailed.
—.
Posted at half past one in the morning on October 19th, 2014.  link  
Emailed!
—Anonymous
Posted at four o'clock in the afternoon on October 19th, 2014.  link  
Are you a man or a woman? what year?
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past eight in the morning on October 21st, 2014.  link  

Guys—

      Some guy was posting on yik yak about how he'd be down for anal with another guy. If that was you or if that sounds chill for you let me know, I'm a well hung good looking guy who'd be interested in getting it on.

—Another guy

Posted at a quarter past four in the afternoon on October 20th, 2014.  link   hide  
Anal sex can be really painful if not done properly and without some training for both women and men. Email me if you want some tips.
—Anonymous
Posted at eight o'clock in the morning on October 21st, 2014.  link  

Whitman—

      So many attractive women (mostly on the inside though it is a given most girls at Whitman are physically attractive). So many platonic crushes. Of course, many awesome friendships. Ah, my heart both aches and sings thinking of all the different universes, and that maybe in one of them I'm good enough for you. And in which one of all those universes will I come out the happiest?
Maybe it's this one?
Will you be so great that I will never again feel the need to look for someone else?
...Will I be so great?
I certainly hope so... Otherwise I will be aching all my life. In the meantime, I'll be smelling the roses I encounter, if you may, scouting for that fragrance that will make me forget any other fragrance.

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter to two in the morning on October 21st, 2014.  link   hide  

~~~—

      A monk asked: "Does the cow have the buddha-nature, or not?"

A cow responded: "Moo".

—~~~

Posted at a quarter to nine in the evening on October 20th, 2014.  link   hide  
~_~
—@@@
Posted at eleven o'clock in the evening on October 20th, 2014.  link  

Ladies—

      I'm looking for a casual hook-up buddy. Let me know if you are down and we can chat. Email attached.

—A guy

Posted at a quarter to eleven in the evening on October 20th, 2014.  link   hide  

anon—

      "Drugs are good, religion is bad"
-Bill Maher on Daily Show.

—Anonymous

Posted at half past six in the evening on October 20th, 2014.  link   hide  

BDSM-er's—

      I'm looking to begin a path down the road as a dom. Inexperienced and wanting to learn the ropes from someone involved in the BDSM community. Or if there's a someone that's new as well, and wants to be a sub, then we can learn together.

—Male

Posted at a quarter to eight in the evening on October 17th, 2014.  link   hide  
Some haikus for your consideration...

How to roughly play
In shadows of pleasured pain
Carries me away

Cuff me to the bed
Like in fifty shades of grey
Do not let me cum

I’m a masochist
My pain produces pleasure
Give my nips a twist

You are my master
You take me to dark places
Hit me harder sir
—Yosa "Kinky" Buson
Posted at a quarter to nine in the evening on October 17th, 2014.  link  
I think I know who wrote those haikus...
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past seven in the evening on October 19th, 2014.  link  
Emailed
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past six in the evening on October 20th, 2014.  link  

To All Disgruntled about Whitman—

      Transfer if you don't like it so much.

Find a better fit or notice Whitman's merits.

Otherwise figure out a way to institutionally change the place...good luck.

—Anonymous

Posted at a quarter to ten in the morning on October 19th, 2014.  link   hide  
Fuck you. :)
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on October 19th, 2014.  link  
What's with the smiley? If you mean fuck you, say FUCK YOU.
—Kids these days
Posted at a quarter to eleven in the evening on October 19th, 2014.  link  
FUCK YOU. :-P
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to one in the morning on October 20th, 2014.  link  

revalations—

      People who incessantly complain about Whitman are just spoiled rich brats who need something to whine about

—Anonymous

Posted at half past five in the evening on October 17th, 2014.  link   hide  
I think you're right, but that's not to say there aren't things that Whitman can fix.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past six in the evening on October 17th, 2014.  link  
People who complain about people who complain about Whitman are just spoiled rich brats who need something to whine about
—Anonymous
Posted at two o'clock in the afternoon on October 19th, 2014.  link  
^ Good point, but the bulk of the complaints I've noticed are in response to school policies that disproportionately target lower and middle-income families. The wealthy kids will turn out just fine.
—Anonymous
Posted at half past five in the evening on October 19th, 2014.  link  
^Agreed. Any complaints/iffy feelings I've had about being here are related to feeling left out for not being rich-i.e., working a minimum wage job over the summer and being looked at in confusion and pity when talking about it (when I never saw it as something to feel embarrassed about before coming here at all, most non-rich college students do that, FYI!), having a car that isn't fancy and people saying "oh..." when they see it (again, most American college students drive less-than-stellar cars and I wasn't embarrassed about my car until someone here made me feel that way, thanks...), and feeling like I don't really have as much freedom to protest the crappy financial aid package I got because I don't want to appear contrary to the very people I'm depending on to help me to find a job once I've graduated. Yes, things could be worse, and I got to go here when my parents didn't get to go to colleges that were as good as this one, but the above things make me feel like an outsider and I often have to reassure myself that I do deserve to be here and that people weren't intentionally trying to hurt me with their comments or sympathetic looks.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past nine in the evening on October 19th, 2014.  link  
"Revalation": A lot of people complain. Some of them are bitches. Some of them have valid reasons to complain. I think you are talking about people complaining about Whitman's cold shoulder on financial aid. On that, I am on the same page. Then again, it is expected of americans to be hypocrites, so I don't see it as a revelation... Whitman cut my aid so now I can't pay for college, much less depression/adhd medication and the faint light at the end of the long tunnel that is whitman is starting to dwindle. I am so sorry that people complaining about financial diversity offends the upper class here, but I sincerely don't give a fuck.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on October 19th, 2014.  link  

ASWC—

      I don't pay $50,000 a year to see white people "indie rappers" BRING NICKI + BEY

—young money

Posted at half past nine in the evening on October 16th, 2014.  link   hide  
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=56qgO0C82vY
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to ten in the evening on October 16th, 2014.  link  
Good thing you don't pay $50,000 a year, then.
—"Thanks Mom and Dad!"
Posted at two o'clock in the afternoon on October 19th, 2014.  link  

Anyone—

      Kik me b94jones

—Male

Posted at half past twelve in the morning on October 19th, 2014.  link   hide  

Relationship. Gurus—

      I've fallen into the worse place: the friend zone. There appears to be no way out, and it just gets deeper. I've fallen pretty hard for this girl, but there doesn't seem to be a way out for me. What should/can I do? Is there a light at the end of the friendship tunnel?

—That guy friend

Posted at half past eleven in the evening on October 13th, 2014.  link   hide  
Have you made your intentions clear to her that you want to be more than just friends?

If you have, then respect the hint that she is not interested in being anything other than friends.
—Anonymous
Posted at five o'clock in the morning on October 14th, 2014.  link  
Your use of "the friend zone" and lamentation of the fact that you're "in" it implies that her friendship isn't good enough for you in and of itself and that you think you're entitled to more. Here's the deal, dude. You should be happy to be her friend, period. I'm not criticizing you for falling for her, but if you've expressed romantic/sexual interest in her and she isn't into it, you need to back the hell off and get over it because you are not entitled to ANYTHING from her. I don't care how good of a friend you are or how often you're there for her or whatever, she doesn't have to have romantic or sexual feelings for you. And if she doesn't, you trying to force her to isn't going to help and that would make you a shitty person and an even shittier "friend." As someone who is "that girl" that lots of guys develop feelings for, I can tell you here's nothing worse than thinking a guy was really my friend and then having him get upset with me when I decline his advances and drop the "friend zone" bomb as if I am OBLIGATED to share his romantic or sexual feelings, no matter if I'm not attracted to him or if I have something going on with someone else or I plain old just don't want him as anything other than a friend, as if I'm a horrible, mean, shallow person for not wanting to fuck him, as if my friendship was all worth nothing if it doesn't lead to a romantic relationship or a spontaneous blow job the second he tells me that he wants more. Now I drop any guy who uses the term "friend zone" because it's very telling of the way they think of women and I'm not going to set myself up for that sort of treatment. I hope you can either respect your friend enough to stop trying to be more than her friend if you are getting the feeling that she doesn't want anything more (and it sounds like you are getting that feeling), or else get out of her life if you can't because no woman deserves to be put in the position of her No's not being respected and being constantly guilt-tripped by someone she cares/d about who just feels so entitled to her that he doesn't mind making her feel like shit till she gives in to him. I hope there's a light at the end of the tunnel for her!
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past seven in the morning on October 14th, 2014.  link  
You make me out to be a really shallow person, but I haven't made any advances or expressed displeasure for being in the friend zone. I really do enjoy being just a friend, but I also have very heart-felt feelings for her. I ageee wih what you are saying, but trust me when I say that's not who I am and I haven't been at all pushy or shown my interests in an open way. I just don't want my friendship to end or lose its specialness if my feelings are expressed.
—OP
Posted at a quarter past nine in the morning on October 14th, 2014.  link  
you made a whole post about your displeasure at being in the friend zone...
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past five in the evening on October 14th, 2014.  link  
Nothing in the post indicated that OP expected anything from the girl or feels she owes him, but you seemed to read that into it.
—not OP
Posted at a quarter past seven in the evening on October 14th, 2014.  link  
OP, I have two pieces of advice. First, make your intentions clear. There's no perfect opportunity to do this so just do it. There are a million ways to do this- each has its own merit. My approach would be to say it. If it were me, I'd say I like you as more than a friend. That's it, just say it. Then if she's not down, I'd shrug, say ok, and say the same thing to one of the other girls that I find cool/attractive at whitman. That last part to me is the key- she's not the only attractive compatible girl (not even close, there're so many). This way, if she says no, I can take it for what it is and move on without taking it as a personal attack and without getting down on myself for weeks. Embrace rejection because it will ultimately save you a lot of time.

second piece of advice- don't ask for advice on here. you'll get really bad advice (generally. also i get the irony).

lastly, i've often felt deprived of a life coach- someone to guide me in things that nobody talks about, talking about is discouraged, or everybody seems to have their own opinions about. for better or worse, i've turned to this guy on youtube that seeks to do just that- address these issues. He's a really charismatic and smart guy. this is a link to his video on friendzones. watch it if you are interested, otherwise i wish you luck. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hOH08ciHsHE
—hope that helps a little
Posted at eight o'clock in the evening on October 14th, 2014.  link  
The phrase "falling in the friend zone" implies a long scheme trying to score with a girl only to have her see you as a friend and not as a romantic candidate. It is a horrible term, one which I luckily saw how damaging it is.
If you really appreciate her friendship, don't use that term.
Second, if you like her, ask her out. If she doesn't want to go out with you, that's that.
If she does, cool. If she decides she's not really interested, that's that.
If you both hit it off, cool. But don't push it on her.
—Guy
Posted at a quarter to one in the morning on October 15th, 2014.  link  
I'm a girl and I call it getting stuck in the friend zone if I'm friends with a guy (and am fine with friendship but wouldn't mind more) and I feel like we're past the point where he might potentially look at me like that and I feel like I lost out on something. I usually end up liking people after being friends with them for a while, so I don't talk to guys that I like solely for that reason. I understand why the term can be damaging and self-centered and objectifying, but before hearing it in that context and then being afraid to use it, I saw it as a word to describe the general hilariously predictable bad luck I have had with men who almost always see me as a good friend rather than anything else. Anyone else feel this way?
—Anonymous
Posted at half past three in the afternoon on October 15th, 2014.  link  
talk to her pleeeeeeasee!!!! or at least try to find out if she likes you
—Anonymous
Posted at eleven o'clock in the evening on October 17th, 2014.  link  

Whitman women—

      Newly single male here. I'm looking for to meet a woman who is good at conversations, comfortable hooking up, and likes watching netflix. Hmu if you want to talk.

—Whitman male

Posted at a quarter to one in the morning on October 17th, 2014.  link   hide  

fellas—

      Senior guy looking to maximize memories while I'm still here. Not particularly interested in first timers or those just experimenting, but hey, maybe we can work something out. I'm happy to negotiate what happens and keep it consensual.

—experienced and single

Posted at eleven o'clock in the evening on October 15th, 2014.  link   hide  
emailed.
—XOXO
Posted at nine o'clock in the evening on October 16th, 2014.  link  

You—

      Play HvZ.

hvzsource.com/hvzwhitman

—Your HvZ spam man

Posted at half past eleven in the morning on October 16th, 2014.  link   hide  

Anyone who finds dating at Whitman difficult.—

      I want to date someone. I'm twenty-one and have never been on a date and part of that is because there isn't really a dating scene here. I don't want to be in a hook-up relationship or a relationship where I will likely marry the person I date. I just want it to be normal for people here to be able to ask each other out.

So, to the boy I studied with in the library about two weeds ago, I want to date you or go on a date with you. I had a lot of fun studying and you sparked my interest. I barely know you but I like you.

Maybe I will have to break to silence and ask you out. But I tried that last year and I got my heart broken.

—The girl in the red pants.

Posted at a quarter past eight in the evening on October 14th, 2014.  link   hide  
Not your study buddy, but I can tell you that you're not alone. 21 year old guy here, I find the dating scene polarized and a bit frustrating as well. Dates should be fun, without all those expectations and strings.

So my advice, go for it. Flip that pesky guys-ask-girls convention around and ask him. Fear of rejection be damned! The potential upside of you asking is so much greater than the potential downside of him saying no and you moving on.

Good luck!
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to eleven in the evening on October 14th, 2014.  link  
Also 21-I've been on a few dates in my life, but I've never had a fulfilling love life. After finally getting over being shy and finally having good luck, I got my first real boyfriend at 16. That relationship didn't work out and only lasted a few months, and the other one I was in in high school also quickly didn't work out. I was in love with someone else on and off for the entirety of high school, and I always thought we would end up together, but we didn't. I still have stupid irrational thoughts about him even though I rationally know it won't happen. I guess it could, but I'm not holding my breath. I thought I would have more luck in college, but the relationships I had here were much worse because they weren't just uncomfortable, they ended in ugly fights. I learned a lot from what happened, but I wouldn't wish those experiences on anyone. I'm ready for and open to a laid-back, friendly relationship, too (marriage is a long ways away, I haven't even had a fun relationship yet) but based on the social climate here, I don't think it's gonna happen until after graduation. I wish you guys the best of luck and I'm also kind of glad that I'm not alone in what I think.
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter to four in the afternoon on October 15th, 2014.  link  
I also want to date someone... as in just get to know each other without any expectation of what's going to happen... 20 yo. guy here, here's my email if you want to get in touch!
—Anonymous
Posted at a quarter past eight in the evening on October 15th, 2014.  link  

Party Ambassadors—

      Who wants to help me make this tripple-up Halloween party happen?

—Yik Yak Poster

Posted at half past four in the afternoon on October 15th, 2014.  link   hide  
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